You Can Leave When It's Still Good

So recently, I heard Rob Bell say, "You don't have to wait for things to be bad to leave." Isn't that beautiful? I think it is. We have this wonky belief that the only excuse to really leave anything is that it got so bad you had to. I'm going to challenge you to a different story today. 

Think about it. When someone leaves a job, ends a relationship, moves into a new home, our initial assumptions and questions tend to be leading. What happened? (Can't you just hear the drama?) We want the scoop because most likely there is a scoop. And when you're on the other end of the question, you tend to feel you have to justify the decision that was made, so we can verbally or socially get our sanctification: Oh, that was bad. 

What if, instead, we started making decisions based on our gut before things got bad? What if we just left jobs when we didn't feel we were in the right place anymore? What if we ended relationships before it got to the name calling and loathe for one another? What if we could end things peacefully? What if we gave the freedom to each other to do what we need to do? This isn't to say that people won't still get hurt or be saddened by other people's decisions, but won't we just have so much more love and respect for each other if we go now, when we know we need to?

And I think we all have had the knowing of things should have ended but pressed through. In fact, oftentimes that tidbit is in the story we tell:  I knew I should have left three months ago when...yadi yadi ya. So what is it that we are believing that makes us think the only justification for happiness is first misery? No more, folks. We gotta start listening to that gut of ours because grace and joy and love and good stuff is ours for the taking. I want it to be how we are living life. 

All the good stuff to you, my friends.

x Keely